Some of the Realist shit I can say about women

wow, its been a long time since I've written, probably months. Sorry for all those who clicked on this link or found this site and were like wtf?! this is never updated. I'm gonna attempt to say some of the most truthful thoughts I've ever had concerning men, women, and relationships. I hope to get some feedback on this one- it might get a little grimy.
First, I've always wondered about the female self image(self respect). It seems to be like a wisp of smoke for most women to attain and keep, one moment its there and the next its not. This theory becomes an almost blatant fact when any man (or woman for that matter) with any ability of perception observes your behavior. For example, (and this is usually with someone you have some level of trust in) in the constant assessment and reassessment of your body ie. do these jeans make my love handles stick out? do I look fat in this shirt? do these jeans make my ass look to fat? too small? what about my breasts? does this bra accentuate my cleavage correctly? do I look slutty, or sexy? and on and on and on. The amount of data you females take of yourselves could rival that of the Central Intelligence Agency. For most men, regardless of what they say, as long as you do your best to be hygenic and most importantly confident, many, many guys will find you extremely attractive. And I know you guys know that, because most girls who may even be aesthetically pleasing has a "chubby"/"fat"/not so attractive friend who always seems to have men or women(based on preference) constantly attracted to them or hitting on them. I know on some level you females think to yourselves, "I'm more attractive, smarter, better dresser, funnier, etc, than she is" and you wonder whats her secret. I'll tell you, from a guys perspective to any females who might wonder and to any guys who never analyzed this.
The secret really is confidence. Obviously, besides those girls that have a "reputation" that precedes them (most guys follow a path of least resistance, at least in a bar/party setting), the biggest factor is confidence, and not taking yourself so seriously. I don't mean to be an asshole here, but honestly, you girls of average looks or around decent attractiveness, get off your high horse, for real. Look, we know you're not that attractive, and if you are, its still a huge turnoff to act snobby, or as if you know the whole world should recognize your beauty. Please. Thats probably the biggest reaason why you guys get burned. The nice guys, average guys, and guys who would make your dreams come true, emotionally, sexually, mentally, maybe even financially, get burned time and time again by you guys, because they're not pretty boys, or because they don't treat you like shit. I mean lets face it, most guys don't really have a clue what you girls need, or even how to get the proverbial foot in the door, but to be honest a lot of them shouldn't have to have "game" or feel like they should. They should be given a chance based on their merit, and personality. At least, for those girls who complain that they can't find a good boyfriend. You females who are just lookin for no strings atttached or just one night of fun, continue as you please, but all others (and there are a lot of you) need to pay attention. If you've ever seen the truth disguised as a romantic comedy "Hitch" then you know whats up. Truly nice individuals never have a chance to impress you because you females are so competitive and image concious that a particular guy won't be cute enough, hot enough, or live up to your unreal expectations of what you can attain physically, to your friends, family, etc. you reject them off the back. Now, that part is not all women's fault, some of it is the guy's but that will probably have to be discussed in a part 2.
My other issue that I must discuss, and it may not be entirely your fault, is the fact that most females seem to always have to do things the indirect route. That bothers me to end when I observe. For example, at a party the other night, I was talking to a female, not really trying to make a move or anything, just discussion, and I leave and notice another guy talking to her trying to do his best to ascertain her interest. To me, it looks like he's doing a good job of it although I saw a slight hesitation from the female. He leaves and gestures, to her, for her to follow, she responds in some weird different way. I say to her go to him he's askin for you, and her response is I don't care, I'm not trying to be with him, and 10 mins later they leave together. Wtf is that shit? or perhaps the whole playing games issue of I'm interested in him until he's interested in me and then I'm not interested anymore, or not being clear if you actually like a guy, and want him to do things with you. You know before you blow up on a guy for not respecting your feelings, or understanding you, stop and ask yourself, "have I told him in direct terms what I feel and what I expect?" "did he respond clearly about what it is he wants", and did I recognize and accept it" "am I overreacting" because I believe probably 90 percent of the time 1 of those 3 things you haven't done. Damn, I'm running out of gas. I'm trying to get it all out before I crash.
Look, nobody is at fault 100 percent of the time, but ladies, stop, remember, and accept, guys are extremely simple. More simple than you think. If he likes you, he'll show it, and if you don't know ask, cause he will tell you, and if he plays games and you don't like it stop wasting your time and move on. He's not worth it to begin with, if you have a decent self image, are confident, and not so bitchy you will have plenty of suiters, trust me. And if you find that guy and you want to keep him around its real simple. Spontaneous bouts of sexual expression and affection(random head, sex, even molestation), cooking for him (no matter how much you might suck), good head (I can't stress that enough), and not bitching/nagging at him so much about how his gift may have disappointed you, or that he didn't remember your 6 month anniversary, and trust me he will stay and be very happy to do so.
Damn, I probably left out a bunch of stuff, but thats ok. I've said enough for now. Anyone who finds this interesting or truthful come back in a little while and I'll explain what guys need to do and what's expected of them. Any comments or responses regarding this nonsensical garbage would be appreciated. Also, sorry for any typo's or grammatcial errors. I don't give a fuck. Peace.

wow

I don't know what to say. Maybe I was supposed to get fucked up or die or learn a lesson. No one should ever drink and drive...especially in the snow and hail. Whatever powers that be-thank you.

Looks or Personality

Why do I always find something missing in the person who is right for me? Whenever we meet someone, we always try to embarce their strengths and neglect their weaknesses for the strengths should overpower them. I have always asked myself, why is it that I can't overlook a quality I don't like in a person if all of his other qualities are essentially perfect in my eyes. A few years ago, I got together with one of my best friends and it was incredible. We could talk for hours and always have something new to discuss. We spent every waking moment with one another and never got bored. He was really the first genuine guy I have ever dated that made me feel beautiful, that made me feel loved. Growing up with such a scarcity of self esteem and confidence (which stemmed from my parent's need to belittle me and my worth), it has always been very difficult for me to trust anyone and really let myself become vulnerable to them. At first, I was skeptical about whether or not I was making the right decision by letting myself open-up to him but over time, he proved to me day in and day out that he thought the world of me and loved me more than anything. We were together for two years but the love (on my part) began to fade as aresult of the lack of attraction I had to him. Even after two years that we were broken up, he has always been by my side no matter what. Until this day, he still tells me how much he loves me and will never give up on the opportunity to be together once again. My ex is an incredible individual. He is smart, outgoing, friendly, caring, loyal,and most of all, incredibly understanding. The problem now is that even though he is doing everything in his power to convince me to get back together and show me that we belong together...I just can't see myself with him anymore. In terms of personality and intellect, he is perfect in my eyes. But the fact that I don't find the least bit of attraction towards him or any chemistry for that matter, prevents me from considering him again. I know that I am not being shallow because I have made numerous attempts to try to move past the lack of attraction and simply focus on how great of a guy he is. But without attraction, there is no chemistry and therefore no desire to maintain a healthy relationship (especially phyiscally)... Its hard to accept this as a fact because every other clue points out that I should be with him, that he is the one for me. I guess I will never know....what I am curious about is whether or not it makes sense to be with someone who you aren't attracted to but has the greatest attitude and personality you have ever found in a man. Does it make sense to throw away everything simply because I am not attracted to him?


-sent in by "Anonymous"

Happy New Year

thank God the holiday's are over. I work at a dead end customer service oriented job, and I swear, if I had to say happy holidays or happy new year one more time I was gonna blow my brains out all over my desk. BTW, happy new year...bastards.

- sent in by anonymous

Enjoy your "Holiday Tree"

Here we are at the holidays again. It seems to me that this is the time of year where people call up their best representatives of themselves and all of sudden every stranger they see is all smiles and cheers. I don't need the bullshit "merry Christmas" and "happy holiday" greetings, when if this is 2 months prior I become a typical stranger-capable of murder, robbery, assault etc. And treated accordingly [quick, wary eyed glances].
Moreover, lets remember this holiday has been commercialized so thoroughly its become a national concern over whether to refer to Christmas trees as "holiday trees" and "happy holiday" whatever that may be. All so the retailers can bring in as much money as possible from people who may not be christians, or even believe in God by not offending them with what the holiday is supposed to be about-celebrating Christ's birthday. I'm not a religious person but for those who are the holiday traditions and even the date are believed by many scholars to be the result of political and syncretic actions. Many of these traditions ie. gift exchanging, mistletoe, Christmas tree, originated with pagan traditions many stemming from a roman holiday celebrating "saturnalia." [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christmas] What surprised me about all this bullshit is that religious people don't even know the origins or at least the controversy surrounding one of their most important holidays.
Another thing. I'm fuckin sick of feeling like I have to empty my life savings to give people gifts they would actually want, because of the absolute commercialism associated with this holiday. And I'm guilty too-my expectations are always higher than they should be. I always believe I'll finally get that one gift I asked for but when I open up my box full of sweaters I die inside a little. Its a little disappointing but that's my fault. I shouldn't expect a fuckin 250 dollar nano, or 300 dollar digital camera, but I do. Fuckin garbage. Why can't it just be about spending time with people you love giving the gift of love or a small token of appreciation.
I'm lucky also in that when the holiday's come around my family is small so I don't have to buy 20 gifts for cousins, aunts, uncles, in-laws, etc. that I probably don't see or no and maybe not even like.

If anyone one is out there with some "entertaining" family holiday stories I'd love to hear it. Let me know if you feel my pain, or if I'm just a cynical bastard. All contributions are welcome. iventpost@gmail.com

happily ever never

Want a girl to vent… I’ll vent about the bullshit of “love” and messed up relationships. In this crazy, fucked up world, every single girl out there is looking for her soul mate, the fairy tale ending, the whole love at first sight bullshit. Well, I’m here to tell all y’all that fairy tale endings are an urban myth set up by Disney. Love at first sight, Prince Who the Fuck Ever falling madly in love with Cinderella right as she walks into the ball, bullshit. She could have been a blonde fucking whore for all he knew, and no one wants to marry that. Chivalry is dead and modest, humble women no longer exist. All there is in the world is lots of uncensored, freaky, casual sex and no thought to a committed relationship. Its all a game that everyone plays. I just got out of a seemingly normal and healthy relationship. I thought it was going to end well, with that house with a white picket fence, 2.2 kids, and a dog named Max in suburban America. Who the hell was I kidding? I didn’t say “I love you” until 3 months after he said and he said it after a horrible drunken argument that I walked out on. He said it as a desperate attempt to keep me in his bed. I called him two hours later and made up, stupidly. I said “I love you” after an argument about me not talking to him about the way I feel about anything and then he got up and walked away. I said it to keep him around and to keep him from running off to his ex-girlfriend who had asked him to marry her, bullshit! If you want a happily ever after, don’t get with an [drunkard] unless you want that happily ever after to include a 6 pack of beer and one piss-drunk man. He was a dick when he was drunk, he would call me in the middle of the night when he knew I had work in the morning to demand that I go to his place (pay for a cab myself) so he could have some ass.
He didn’t care about me. When I told him I couldn’t, he would go on and on about getting some other girl, namely his ex-fucking-girlfriend and screwing her brains out. At 3:47 in the am, I didn’t care if he screwed some nasty hooker as long as I could just go back to sleep. So it ended, he broke up with me, a week later we got back together, a week later I broke up with him and to this day, he’s still calling me to get together. It’s all a game for sadists and masochists. Now he keeps calling me, drunk or sober… we just argue. I hang up because its bullshit and he continues to call to tell me about the girl he’s screwing or how I will never find the perfect man that I’m dreaming of. That’s the real world… that’s how relationships work. If my relationships were a Disney movie… “happily ever after” would be replaced with “sadness forever more”.
-sent in by "Jenn"

Generating traffic sucks

yea so this is day 4 of my blog. Its so addicting, yet frustrating, kind of like that beautiful woman you talk to a few times, and she seems perfect for you and yet for some reason you can't get close, and that's when you realize you've been played for a sucker as she used you to boost her ego while she's dating some other raggedy douchebag guy, yet you still think about her. Its kinda like that.

Anyways this is definitely not supposed to be my personal bitch about the world type thing. I'm hoping to discover other viewpoints and have it be more of a user submission community type thing. Therefore I'm doing everything possible to get you bloggers to post. I'm signing up with blog directory's, emailing bloggers, just trying to get more involved in the blogosphere (wow that sounded really lame, I'm not a geek honestly just an average guy). So put in some effort link to the site; tell your friends; post about how shitty you think I am. I could care less but definitely post because we don't want anymore people going postal at work and in schools. Plus I'm funny sometimes but rarely. Therefore all you comedy people who think you're funny and are all cynical and angry at life, you've found your forum. Post bitches.